Memory & family
How to Write an Obituary: Structure and Examples
A practical guide to writing an obituary or words of remembrance for a loved one — what to include, what tone to use, and common mistakes to avoid.
Writing an obituary is one way to honor someone after they die. It does not need to be perfect — it needs to be honest and respectful.
A simple structure
- Announcement — full name, dates of birth and death, place of residence
- Life summary — education, work, family, what they loved
- Survived by — close family members (optional, based on your tradition)
- Service details — date, time, location (if applicable)
- Closing words — a short personal note or quote
What tone works best
- Warm and specific rather than generic
- Focus on who they were, not only what they achieved
- Short sentences are easier to read aloud at a service
What to avoid
- Clichés that could describe anyone ("they will be missed by all who knew them")
- Details the family has asked to keep private
- Blame, controversy, or humor that might hurt someone in grief
After the obituary
Many families keep the obituary as the starting point for a fuller life story — with photos, chapters, and memories added over time.